Last night I had a dream. I was throwing a ball around with some people in a swimming pool and someone suggested we play a game of water polo (I’m half Hungarian, so it’s in my blood…weird that a land-locked country would have such a history of obsession with water polo). An argument thus arose over whether imposition of rules would detract from the fun we were having or not.

In my dream, we decided to continue with the unstructured play rather than transition into a game with formal rules. That’s what we explicitly decided on, at least. In my dream-reality, however, what I realized (in retrospect) we decided on was to simply keep the status quo in terms of our understanding of the implicit rules in what we were doing. For instance, clearly it’d be against the implicit rules of behavior we were operating under to just toss the ball in the air repeatedly (playing catch with yourself). We’d be annoyed if someone violated that rule.

In other words, it wasn’t a choice between structured and unstructured play: There is no such thing as unstructured play. There’s always a structure involved in play, whether it’s pretending that you’re a fireman rescuing people from certain death or a kid playing catch with his dad.